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Rewards and Punishment

This one is a little different, as the question is longer than the answer, but I thought it would be good to print the whole thing, as there is quite a lot of good information:

Question:

It came up in a conversation that the majority of religions are based on a ‘reward’ system. By this, I mean if we perform good will towards man, we will be granted eternal happiness. For those that falter throughout life, continuously acting upon transgressions, they are sent back on the continuous wheel of life known as rebirth or sent to the flames of Hell.

Muslims follow the Koran, which provides vivid descriptions of both Heaven and Hell. Heaven is viewed upon as “Worldly Delights”. Whereas torments of Hell are explained in lurid detail. On Judgment Day, Allah will rise and determine ones destiny. Also being described as, “passing over Hell on a narrow bridge in order to enter ‘Paradise’, or Heaven. Those who fall, weighted by their bad deeds, will remain in Hell forever.”

Hinduism states that in order to be freed from the endless rounds of birth, death, and rebirth, one must follow a life completely devoted to the Brahman. Their afterlives continue in many forms, and in many different worlds depending on how one lived his/her life on earth. Good for good, bad for bad, etc. In fact, neither life nor after-life are permanent unless the soul is liberated. Liberation is defined as “freedom from the individual soul from the cycle of births and deaths, from the sense of duality and separation, and union with Brahman, the supreme soul.”

In the Jewish religion, they await the coming of the Messiah, where he will hand out the eternal judgment and reward to all. One large belief in Judaism is that their entire Jewish race and the whole of creation will be judged, as opposed to individual men. Again, it comes down to good for the good, bad for the bad, etc.

Christianity is a strong representation of this view. Those that follow God, abiding by his will, will be rewarded upon death with eternal happiness, and into the gates of Heaven. Those that turn their face from God, performing a life of everlasting sin, will be doomed to the gates of Hell. “He who overcomes shall inherit these things, and I will be his God and he will be My son. But for the cowardly and unbelieving…their part will be in the lake that burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.” Revelation 21:8.

And finally, with Buddhism, the doctrine is summed up in the Four Noble Truths: Life is suffering; The origin of suffering is attachment; The cessation of suffering is attainable; The path to the cessation of suffering, The way down that path is known as the Noble Eightfold Path. As well as the FNT, we have to factor in Karma. In Buddhism, from what I’ve learned, it is basically the result of our own past actions and our own present doings. In other words, we are responsible for our own happiness and misery, “the architects of our own fate.”

And finally my question: Why is it that Religions have to be so black and white regarding eternal happiness. Shouldn’t Religion and Spirituality be celebrated as Love? If God is Love, or the God of your understanding, then why would such a world be created in which suffering and pain is inevitable. Thus creating opportunities and “excuses” for sin. Creating anger and hatred, revenge and spite, good and evil. Shouldn’t everyone be granted eternal happiness? Not forced into the cycle of rebirth, in the sense of “try try again? Shouldn’t all men and woman be accepted for who they are, and not judged by their actions? Which, by the way, are all a result of ones family life, and how their father treated their mother, grandfather to grandmother, so on and so forth. Our minds exploited by the information and beliefs of our elders. We are all products of societies influence, generation after generation. And are a direct result of our environment. Love should be rewarded with love, as should pain, suffering, anger, hatred and the like.

What is your take on all of this, from a Buddhist’s standpoint?

Answer:

I’m going to turn off “Buddhist-teacher mode” for this one and put on my old Comparative Religions hat for this one to look at it from the outside. This answer has a lot to it, so if I offend anyone, I apologize in advance. Take issue with it in the comment section if you want, better yet, add your ideas!

Whether or not there is a God behind any of it, all religions seek to explain the world around us and also answer the big questions, such as what happens when we die? How they answer these questions lies partially in the cultures and regions from which they came. Those in the East involve reincarnation, while those in the West involve some higher power that sits in judgment.

The last line of your own question, “Love should be rewarded with love, as should pain, suffering, anger, hatred and the like,” explains the rest. Humans have an innate need for fairness and justice. If I spend my life helping others, being generous and compassionate, etc. and my neighbor is a greedy, cheating, liar, then what’s fair about that? The afterlife, in most religions, is there to balance the scales. That nasty old neighbor will get what’s coming to him later when I enjoy my rewards! Pain should be rewarded with pain, hatred with hatred, and so forth; you reap what you sow; karma; it’s all a form of eternal justice to make up for the inequities of this life.

The source of the idea that “God is love,” is 1 John 4:8, yet beyond that one line, there isn’t much evidence of that. The line has been blown way out of proportion in my opinion. According to everything else in the Bible, God is a person or being with desires, plans, and wishes of his own; he’s not a generic entity such as Love. You asked, “Should religions and spirituality be interpreted as love?” Why? Religions are there to explain the world, and if the people in a certain area don’t see love as the highest ideal, then that’s not going to be reflected in their religion.

Much of your question is also based around an old theological trap called “The Problem of Evil.” You may have heard it before, but here it is. It’s from Christian theology, but it applies to Islam and most other god-centric religions:

1. God is all-knowing and all-powerful.
2. God is perfectly good, wanting only the best for us.
3. There is evil and suffering in the world.

Do each of those statements look true to you? They should.But taken as a whole they contradict each other. If God is good and wants the best for us, then how can Evil exist? Either God cannot cannot defeat evil or he won’t for some reason. If he cannot, then #1 is wrong. If he will not, then #2 is wrong.

Buddhism, as in many other things, is a bit different than all this. Whether or not you believe in the more religious flavors of Buddhism, they all place an emphasis on this world. You are supposed to do your best to follow Buddha’s Path now, not after death. By doing so, we build a better world right here. This is one reason Buddhism is so vague on Nirvana or “Heaven,” no one knows what it really is, and we’re not that attached to getting there (if you think of it as a place at all). It’s not the goal that really matters, it’s the life and the practice that matter.

Right Now.

Stringing Us Along

white_string_wristQuestion:

Can you please tell me the name and origin of the Buddhist blessing where a monk ties a blessed string around a persons wrist? Thank you from a new listener.

Answer:

This is very common in Thailand, and is called sai sin. As you already said, it is a form of blessing or “good luck charm.” It’s often done as a thank-you for those who donate or otherwise help the monks in Thailand, although a monk may choose to do this for anyone at any time.

There seems to be some debate on just how long you leave the string on. Some will say that it’s just a part of the ritual, and you can throw it away after the ceremony, while others will tell you to keep the string on until it comes off by itself- as much as several years later.

buddhistmonkIf you do a quick Google of sai sin, you will find several websites that all give differing descriptions of the meaning and importance of the string. Some say it wards off bad spirits, while others call it superstition. But essentially, this is one of those “cute” regional traditional practices that impresses visitors, but has little to do with basic Buddhist teachings.

And yet, it’s for good luck and safe travels, and we all could use a little more of that, so why be in a rush to cut the string off? Enjoy your Buddhist blessing for months to come.

Resentment, Fear, and Anger

Question:

Hello, I am a big fan of the podcast. I am a Soto Zen practitioner and have been doing zazen very regularly. Recently an overwhelming feeling of resentment for my mother has popped into my psyche. Although we have a great relationship and talk almost everyday it seems that through zazen practice this has come to the surface. I have been previously unaware of this. My resentment stems from the fact that when I was 17 she moved to another state, leaving me and my younger brother with my father. Now that I am older and am supporting a family I sometimes feel that I could really use her help. The funny thing is that I know that my feelings are selfish and that my mom is happier where she is. I am trying to work with these feelings and was wondering if you could give me some feedback/advice from a Buddhist perspective.

Answer:

I thinks it’s perfectly normal for a child to feel “abandoned” in those circumstance. The question is whether or not it’s healthy to continue feeling this way as an adult. Obviously, it’s not healthy. Your mother had her reasons for leaving at the time, and whether or not they were reasonable to anyone else, they made sense to her in that situation. We all make decisions, and sometimes those decisions are wrong or hurt others. I don’t know whether or not she was right or wrong to leave, or if that was an overall good thing or bad thing, but it is clear that in this case, her decision hurt you at the time, and the resentment from that is still with you.

So what to do? Resentment is a form of anger, and we talked about that only a few weeks ago. This resentment has continued to grow in you subconsciously over the years until you became aware of its presence. You are grasping at anger or holding on to fear from years ago, and this is affecting your relationship with her today. Having these harmful old feelings is causing you suffering now, and if she senses it, it’s causing suffering for her as well.

I am not a psychologist, but it seems to me that you need to talk this out with her. You need to fully understand her reasons for doing what she did, and when you understand it, you need to forgive it and accept it. This may be a very tough thing to do, but you need to let it go, anything else is going to continue to build up and cause problems later on.

Koan: Mokusen’s Hand

Mokusen’s Hand

Mokusen Hiki was living in a temple in the province of Tamba. One of his adherents complained of the stinginess of his wife.

Mokusen visited the adherent’s wife and showed her his clenched fist before her face.

“What do you mean by that?” asked the surprised woman.

“Suppose my fist were always like that. What would you call it?” he asked.

“Deformed,” replied the woman.

Then he opened his hand flat in her face and asked: “Suppose it were always like that. What then?”

“Another kind of deformity,” said the wife.

“If you understand that much,” finished Mokusen, “you are a good wife.” Then he left.

After his visit, this wife helped her husband to distribute as well as to save.

Learning to Meditate with Sakyong Mipham

We haven’t talked much about meditation lately, so it’s time for a refresher. Today, let’s watch a video as Sakyong Jamgon Mipham Rinpoche explains his thoughts on meditation. I don’t think The Sakyong Jamgon Mipham Rinpoche has been mentioned on this site before, but he’s one of the up-and-coming big names in Buddhism. He is the son of Chogyam Tungpa Rinpoche, and holds many various titles.

Here are two short videos. One is about the Sakyong himself, and the other is a video of him discussing meditation with a group of students.

The Sakyong Jamgon Mipham Rinpoche – Video Biography

Learning to meditate from Sakyong Mipham

If the videos do not appear above, you can find them at Youtube:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2g3Kl0oC2Xs
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PsMLM2zVRbM

Living Death

Question:

You recently wrote about your last will & testament, and that made sense to me. One of the people commenting on that mentioned getting a living will. What are your thoughts on those?

Answer:

Interesting point! A “living will” for anyone who might not know is a document that explains your wishes concerning life support equipment and whether or not you want to be kept alive artificially in case of some very severe medical condition. As that same commenter mentioned, the most famous situation involving this was the one involving Terry Schiavo a few years ago; she was in a coma and couldn’t say what she wanted, so there was a hugely publicized court battle between her parents and husband over what to do with her.

My own wishes are pretty straightforward, and probably the same as most people. In case of an emergency, I want the doctors to do anything and everything within reason they can to fix me, but if the problem is irreparable to the point where I need a machine to live one minute to the next, that they should stop and let me go. Yes, I have a living will that says this, so obviously, I am “pro” living will.It’s a good idea for everyone to have a living will whether or not you want to live on a machine or be allowed to die; it’s the only way to make your wishes known legally. A regular “Last Will” is only good after you have died; it doesn’t do anything if you are in a coma.

But you probably knew all this already. The real question here is what is “The Buddhist Perspective?” It’s more complicated than it appears at first. There are two conflicting ideas at work:

1. Life is “sacred.” We cannot take a life, either by murder or suicide. Depending on your perspective, not using a machine when the option is there could count as either. Pulling someone off a machine who is already on one really does look and feel like murder.

2. On the other hand, keeping someone alive in that condition only prolongs suffering, both for the victim and their families. Staying alive on the machine is another form of “irrational grasping” which causes suffering.

These are the same two ideas that make the issue controversial for Christians, Muslims, Atheists, and everyone else; they aren’t just Buddhist questions. Buddhists, however, would probably place more emphasis on the second point, concerning suffering, than the others.

If you hadn’t guessed already, there really is no simple right and wrong with this; we each have to decide for ourselves. Once again, I’ll go back to the importance of getting a Living Will.

Buddhists vs. Jehovah’s Witnesses: The Jihad

watchtowerQuestion:

My question pertains to how a Buddhist should deal with religious solicitation, specifically Jehovah’s Witnesses. They’ve yet to stop at my house, but other people I know have already had them come to the door and I’m trying to decide the best approach to what I feel is an awkward situation. I’d hate to be blatantly rude to them, they mean well in their own way, but I just don’t agree with the idea of ‚Äúbothering‚Äù people at home to try and peddle your religion. I feel like I should be receptive to anyone who means well, and in a perfect world I’d like to be hospitable and invite these people in to sit down- I recognize they must face a lot of very negative people during their day and my heart would want to be sympathetic and understanding, but this isn’t a perfect world, and I was brought up that you do not talk to strangers, much less invite them in your house. Is it better to be straight forward and say ‚Äúno thanks I’m content with what I’m currently doing‚Äù and risk seeming rude, or should I let them make their speech? I feel like the latter may be misleading since I really have no interest in converting, so is that lying? So‚ĶWWBD? What would Buddha do if someone knocked at his door? any thoughts you or any other reader/listening might have would be much appreciated.

Answer:

This annoys me. I know, as a Buddhist, I shouldn’t get annoyed. Let’s call it a pet peeve then.

I have to admit, in my younger days, I’d always quickly explain that, “I can’t talk right now, I’m sacrificing a goat in the basement,” and hastily close the door. Was it rude? Yes. Was it ethically wrong? I’m not so sure. Let’s look at all the factors here:

You want to invite them into your house and be hospitable to them. That’s nice. I’m sure they do meet many negative people during their travels; that’s because they are bothering people with ideas with which they disagree. If you could have a legitimate conversation with them, and explain your beliefs to them, that might be a valuable opportunity for both “sides” to learn, but it just doesn’t work that way; like any good sales professional, they know how to get around your objections.

You say they mean well; that they have your best interests at heart. That’s probably true in most cases, but here’s something that many people don’t know. Did you realize that some of these groups actually have quotas on the number of hours per month that they MUST knock on doors and proselytize? It’s a requirement of membership in the church. So don’t necessarily just assume they are doing it out of their love for you or desire to save your souls; they simply have no choice.

jehovasI think everyone should be made aware of what the major religions teach; I’d love to see Comparative Religions as a required course in high school (Yes, in all high schools). I know roughly what the Jehovah’s Witnesses, Mormons, and other groups believe, and I don’t believe in it. I am aware of it, and I have made an informed decision to disagree. There is nothing in Buddhism that says you cannot listen to other groups preach their religions; they all have some good ideas. So if you are curious about them and actually want to sit through a lesson or lecture, then there’s no harm in listening. But if you are happy where you are, and already know that you aren’t going to convert, then by inviting them in, you are wasting their time as much as they are yours.

Buddhism is the FOURTH largest religion in the world, after Christianity, Islam, and Hinduism. Why is it only number four? Generally speaking, it’s because Buddhists are more passive and do not actively proselytize and evangelize looking for converts. There are very few “Buddhist Missionaries” out there. It’s better that people make the decision to follow the Buddha’s Path on their own. Forcing them to do it, or annoying them into giving in to it, isn’t the Buddhist way.

So no, I think closing the door on them and getting them to move on in the fastest possible way is going to be less frustrating for you as well as less time-wasting for them, reducing suffering for all. Choose your battles wisely, this is one you won’t be able to win.

Am I being overly harsh here? I don’t know, maybe. As I said earlier, it’s one of my big pet peeves. And, as always, feel free to comment in the section below if you agree, disagree, or want to share your own experience on this.

Podcast Episode 50: The Chicago Police and Buddhism (Video)

It’s movie day again. This time I have found an internal training film from the Chicago Police Department. Part of a series created to inform police officers on the various cultural groups living in Chicago, this 9 minute video explains Buddhism to those who might not otherwise be familiar with the group.

There may or may not be anything here that we haven’t covered in the past, but this is an excellent resource for showing to non-Buddhists.

One thing that stuck out for me in the video was that they specifically state that most of the traditions and actions of various Buddhist groups depends on their specific ethnic or cultural background.

How Can I Desire Enlightenment?

Question:

Isn’t trying to reach enlightenment a form of desire? Wouldn’t it therefore contradict the second Noble Truth, and trying to reach it bring suffering?

Answer:

Just to to refresh everyone’s memories, the second Noble Truth says that, “suffering is caused by attachment to desire.” It is also sometimes expanded to include irrational desire or grasping.

The problem isn’t exactly desire, it’s the attachment to desires. I want a new car, but I’m not going to get one anytime soon, and I accept that; no problem. The problem comes in if I get attached to that desire and become jealous of others who have a new car. Or go out and steal the car or steal the money to buy a car. Or cheat on my taxes in order to be able to buy that car. Those are all obvious problems due to my desire for the new car. But there is more to it that this; actually all those problems are more related to breaking precepts than anything else, the real problem is internal.

Greed. Jealousy. Lust.

Overly strong desires alone can cause damage. They steal time from your own concentration. It’s a distraction, it’s a mental nagging that wears down on you. It’s basic human nature to want things you cannot have. Ask any rich person, and they’ll tell you they still have desires. Desire is a bottomless pit than can never be filled. It doesn’t have to be a desire for things either, since you can desire people, situations, and actions as well. The bottom line is that too strong of a desire crosses a line.

But we all have desires, every one of us. We desire to sleep at night, we desire to eat when we’re hungry, we desire new clothes when the old ones wear out, and so forth. There is nothing wrong with wanting things and desiring things. The problem begins when those desires become irrational or overpowering. We become attached to desires and we grasp at them irrationally.

If you want to become enlightened, that’s fine. Buddha wanted it too; that’s why he spent so many years working towards that goal. But if you become infatuated with the idea of becoming enlightened to the point where you start ruining your life, turning away friends, not eating, losing your job, etc., then you are too strongly attached to the idea.

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Book: Natural wakefulness Discovering the Wisdom We Were Born With

Book: Natural Wakefulness: Discovering the Wisdom We Were Born With
By Gaylon Ferguson
Shambhala Publications, 204 pages, to be released April 14, 2009
Amazon Link: http://www.amazon.com/dp/1590306570/?tag=askdrarca-20

The beginning of this book explains that we are born “Awake” but quickly get mired down in the daily day-to-day work of living. This is just the way things work in the world. But, as Buddhists know, we can “Awaken” to reality and become Enlightened. In his book, Gaylon Ferguson focus on RE-awakening, or enhancing that natural wakefulness with which we all enter this world.


The book is clearly written with everyday English and a minimum of jargon, a feature of which I completely approve. He covers a large number of topics, and includes chapters on mindfulness of body meditation, mindfulness of feeling, awareness of the mind’s flow, seeing beyond hope and fear, and awakening from the nightmare of materialism and much more.

Gaylon Ferguson recieved training from the Tibetan Master, Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche, and if you have read books by any of his other students, you will see much here that is familiar. The book is heavily focused on meditation and improving your meditation practice. There are quite a few meditation exercises and ideas that you can incorporate into your own practice.

There is a section at the end which explains the sources of many of the quotes used in the book. Not just the basic bibliography, but also some of the context, which was interesting. There is a short section of additional resources, most of which are tied in with Shambhala.

This is an excellent book to help you get more serious with your meditation practice. It’s probably not for the absolute novice at meditation, but if you’ve been sitting for maybe a couple of weeks (at least long enough to know how to start) and are running into problems, this might be a good next step. The author’s focus on learning to trust that we are already naturally awake is an interesting point of view with which to work, and he often emphasizes the importance and benefits of making the commitment to a regular meditation practice.