Today, just a quick video.
Today, just a quick video.
A Reader Wrote:
Hello Brian, I am married to a wonderful lady and it really bothers me to see her suffering over small things that I once suffered from.
Just this morning, we bounced a check and it was like we were going to be on skid row.
I try to share certain things with her without trying to cram it down her throat. I recall reading…”When the student is ready the teacher will arrive.” Also, I know that I’m not alone when it comes to wanting to share the methods that helped relieve some of my suffering. Sometimes I wonder (darn thinking! LOL) what it would be like if she sought the same types of things and understood that there is a way to enjoy our time here.
Acceptance, patience, being still and quiet are the things that seem to help me for now. If I’m missing something, or you have a tip for me, I would appreciate it.
You quoted, “When the student is ready the teacher will arrive,” which is true.
Someone else who wasn’t Buddha, once said, “You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink.”
The problem with the situation you are describing is that the student isn’t ready. You say acceptance, patience, and being still have helped you. They’ve certainly helped me over the years as well. Some people, on the other hand, are just less passive, always feeling the need to “act.” I’m not saying there’s anything intrinsically wrong with that. I believe the psychologists when they say there are “Type A” and “Type B” personalities. Type B’s are much more passive, calm, and predisposed towards the quieter ideals of Buddhism. Type A people can do Buddhism too, of course, but it might be a little more difficult if they aren’t naturally drawn to it.
Next time you see she’s depressed, or in some state that you think you can help, simply ask her if she wants to know how you would deal with it. Explain it to her clearly and rationally. She’ll either show interest, or she won’t. As you said, short of shoving it down her throat, there’s not much else you ca do but gently bring it up once in a while.
Perhaps there will be some additional suggestions in the comment section below.
New Book: The Five-Minute Buddhist Meditates: http://amzn.to/17eZJ16
Hey guys, just q quick note to let you know the new book is out. If you enjoyed “The Five-Minute Buddhist,” then this one takes up right where the other left off. If you noted that the first book didn’t get into meditation too heavily, it’s because I thought the subject was a little too big for that one.
It’s available for the Kindle immediately, with Nook and Paperback being available early next week.
The Five-Minute Buddhist Meditates: Getting Started in Meditation the Simple Way
By Brian Schell, October 2013
Amazon Link: http://t.co/PMGcU6T6PF
A jargon-free, plain language introduction to the basic concepts and styles of meditation and real-world applications. There’s no mystical mumbo-jumbo involved, just useful tips that will help you incorporate short, easy-to-follow meditation sessions into your daily life.
We’ll cover Buddhist-inspired meditation methods, such as Watching the Breath, Conceptual meditation, and Loving-Kindness meditations, as well as an overview of many other forms.
This book can be used as a companion book to the original Five-Minute Buddhist or read as a standalone book. No previous knowledge is required.
A long-time reader wrote:
You mentioned in several past episodes that you are not a Zen Master or Guru, and yet, you have taught hundreds if not thousands of disciples through your podcast. Does this not make you then a teacher of aspiring Buddhists? With the availability of the internet, it is likely your students/listeners have more information at their fingertips that aspiring Buddhists decades, centuries, or millennia ago did not have available. What exactly is required to *be* a Zen Master or teacher of Buddhism? The Buddha simply went around teaching and his students called him Teacher. Do you need some kind of ritual or official certificate to be a Teacher of Buddhism these days? Or were you just being humble and did you not realize that you are what you do?
Traditionally with Zen, one master confers the title of “Master” on to very experienced students after so many years of study and meditation. There’s no official certificate or plaque, no, it’s just done when the old Master thinks the student is ready.
I didn’t study under a Master, and never have had one. I’ve taken college courses, and have a degree in “Comparative Religions.” I have a Minister’s License from the State of Ohio that allows me to marry people. I’ve read tons of books, watched umpteen videos, and practiced all kinds of meditation. I have to admit that I’ve experienced a lot of what Buddhism can offer. Does this make me the equal of a Zen Master? I don’t think so. I might go so far as to say I’m an “expert” at Buddhism, but I’d have to point out that even then, it’s mostly book-learning, not experiential.
Do I know more about Buddhism that the Masters a thousand of years ago? Probably, but only because there is so much more to know now than in those days (all those new sects and groups that didn’t exist back then, for one example), and the access to that information is so much easier today.
When I think of a modern “Master,” I think of Thich Nhat Hanh or Sheng Yen. Those guys are the real deal.
Am I a teacher of Buddhism? Absolutely. Am I good at it? I don’t know, but I like to think I have a fairly unique voice in the Buddhist community, and I’d also like to think it’s an honest one. My goal here is, and always has been, to clarify, simplify, and remove the layers of mystical jargon and mumbo-jumbo that tends to accumulate around Eastern religions.
Am I being humble? Probably a little. I’d like to call it something else… honesty.